How To Get Out Of The Friendzone And Move On To Something More
Hello there, you little sad person, long-term resident of the Friendzone!
I know your suffering. I’ve heard the hopelessness in your voice, and felt your silent exasperation. And I’m here to offer you a hand out of this abyss.
If you’re not too busy popping the champagne while they marry someone else, that is.
Seven steps to freedom, guys. Here you go.
1. Don’t Play “Safe”
Don’t be that person. Don’t do that to yourself. When you see someone you’re never going to like as just a buddy, don’t play the “Let’s be friends” game. Don’t lull them into a false sense of security and then expect them to believe you when you say you have more on your mind.
Make sure you communicate your intentions across. In an honest, non-creepy way.
Which brings us to the next step.
2. Flirt A Little, Or A Lot
Flirting is the best way to get your point across without hitting them with a rock, giving yourself (and the opposite person) a chance to walk away with grace.
Use your body, use your words and most importantly, use your wit to subtly communicate to the object of your desire that you’re interested in them.
If they’re interested, they’ll return your advances. If not, no harm done.
3. Make Yourself Busy
Don’t sacrifice yourself at the altar of unrequited love and then complain about “being used” and “taken advantage of.”
Stop willingly giving them so much of your attention and time. Loosen up and put some space between you and your “friend”.
Do less for them. People love things when they’re scarce. Take a look at how much America lusts for oil.
4. Broaden Your Horizons
Go out there and make yourself some new “Friends.”
Don’t let yourself get in a dead end situation where you have nothing else to live for in case this one doesn’t work out for you. That way they’ll know that they’re not irreplaceable, giving you a little more sway in the say of things.
5. Get Them To Invest
Contrary to popular belief, people tend to care more about you when they do you a lot more favours than you do them.
The effort they put into you makes them automatically expect returns, which means sticking around, long-term.
6. Pop The Goddamn Question
Be a little brave here.
Put yourself out there and ask them on a date. That way you firmly set yourself out of the friendzone and into the fire.
Of course, there’s a chance they might downright reject you but hey, that means you get to move on from the limbo and onto the next step.
7. Cut The Cord
Rejections suck, yes.
But hanging around that person even when you’re not going to get anywhere sucks even more.
So be willing to walk away if things aren’t going your way, because you’re not a house-elf. You don’t need an effing sock to be free.
Staying will do you no favours. Even Dobby knew that!
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